I don’t feel emotionally invested in him at all though and I can’t totally figure out why. I'm having sex once a month or so with the same person.
A lot of transient expats have a totally different mind-set too — they’re more inclined to take the role of a guest or treat everything as a new experience.
It can just get old when you’re the one in the mind-set of, “OK, I live here.
Woman A: I moved to South America five years ago from California when I became a Peace Corps volunteer.
Woman A: I had a partner at the time I moved to South America.
My advice [about moving abroad in general] would be to immerse and love the new culture you're in for what it is in all its beauty and complexity rather than comparing it to your own.
If you want things exactly like they were at home, stay home. You will get the most out of your privileged opportunity to live in another country if you continue pushing your limits of learning.This is my life.”Woman A: People are less emphatic about condom use, focus less on foreplay, and tend to have sex outside of the home, such as in a sex motel or even in a park — I think this has to do with the fact that most unmarried people in their 20s and 30s still live at home with their parents.Woman B: Well, the expats in general were more anything-goes than my friends at home — there was lots of drinking and sex and to be honest it seemed like a lot of it was unprotected, in both my personal experience and in talking to others.With my partner, who is a local, it took a long time for us to be on the same page in talking about what we wanted and what we thought about sex. That was very surprising to me given the stereotype of a "Latin lover." Woman B: Maybe this was totally naive, but I didn't expect the social scene in general — at least, the part of it that was most familiar to me — to be so insular and focused on other expats, mostly Europeans who were in the region working for governments or NGOs on aid projects.People would spend all day in the field or in offices working with locals, and then at night would go to dinner or parties with only other expats, who were mostly white.And expats ended up just dating and hooking up with each other too.