So, without further ado: Beware the quiet, angry, brooding, smart guy: This used to be my type to the letter and not surprisingly, every encounter with one, was an epic disaster. They are extremely irresistible to nurturers, those individuals who like to take care of and fix other people.
There’s nothing here for you, so if you run into one of them – that’s a sneak out the bathroom window kinda date.
Because adults that don’t have jobs have to rely on the charity of somebody – make sure that somebody isn’t you.
And no they don’t get points for being honest about it.
We’ve discussed this in previous blogs, but it’s worthy of repeating.
If your date likes to recycle his exes and hates to throw away a good piece of supply, you may have caught yourself a Narcissist – at the very least an intimacy dodger.
I’ve learned how to discern what certain behaviors and patterns mean, what to watch out for, when to proceed and when to climb out the bathroom window.
I know many of you are absolutely terrified at the prospect of dating and you’ve asked for a few tips, so I’ve compiled a few of my many hard learned lessons, to hopefully prepare you better and alleviate some of your anxiety.
A casual comment such as, “I have a lot of friends and we spend a lot of time together.” So, if three weeks into dating, you’re getting ignored and you haven’t heard from them in days, or weeks, this excuse gives them the perfect out, “Hey I told you, I spend a lot of time with my friends.” Thus making it your fault for feeling ignored and being treated poorly.
“See I told you that and you were ok with it then.” I actually went on a blind date with someone, who I could tell right out of the gate wasn’t interested in me, he gave me the excuse that, he may or may not have to work early the next day, that his buddy would call him and let him know.
Others are positive indicators that you are becoming involved with an abuser.
The more “yes” answers, the more likely it is that you are dating an abuser.
My first suggestion though, is to grab a pen and paper and write down exactly what you’re looking for in a partner.